The Art of Grieving

acceptance: the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered, agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation, willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation.

Healthy Grieving must take place. As a culture & society, we often lack the intangible tools required for intimacy with community, grief, loss, and death.

We need to be more realistic, mature, and proactive in our approach to death and grief.

Whether it be a lack in/of resources, disconnections that are culturally or religiously bound or a mistrust in the health care system.

We need help…Real Bad.

We need our minds to be clear in order to make sound decisions.

Life be Life-ing & sometimes we can get so caught up in that cycle that we forget to slow down and take care or ourselves and one another.

Grieving and healing looks different for all of us

In order to move forward, we have learn how to decide to accept people, situations, and things that are beyond our control for what they are.

Then & Only then will we be able to initiate our healing process. Bottled in grief can show up as unhealthy relationships, trauma bonds, tantrums, illness, and the list can go on for a few days.

We must be more intentional with how we are deciding to experience what shows up in our lives.

Some people choose to forget because its harder to remember.

To heal, you have to learn to name joy and label pain.

There is liberation in feeling what you need to feel and saying what you need to say. Leave no room for confusion on how you feel.

Each day has 1440 minutes. How much of that time do you delegate to love and nurture yourself?

When we learn how to care for ourselves we can find it easier to extend that grace to & for others.

Create or find spaces that nurture and support you on your journey.

I listen to a podcast that shared the last statements of a dying man. He said in the end the only words that really matter are

Thank You. I love You. I forgive You. Can You Forgive me?

Say the things you need to say. Feel the feelings you need to feel. Give yourself permission to GROW.

May my love be with you where ever you go,

Melissa Summer Gray